Not just more ways than one! We are counting down for our new apartment, Now which is final!
Yes, just one more night at our current place. I am so excited, although my back hits so much. We have had so many problems in our current place. Now, it seems to be all panning out. Our Condo has cable internet with 10x's the speed for half the price (like the thing I am really excited for). I'm so glad to be moving and actually things seem cheaper once the ball got rolling. Like our neighbor is so crappy AND super expensive!
One thing I am noticing is that many poor people pay high prices for just about anything. Food, services, health, credit.... it just goes on. So I really see how people get trapped here. But I also see how many people won't change. My aunt's bf is working at this shitistic company and needs a new job badly. My aunt won't let him quit, he has to get fired. When your fired in Brazil you get so much money. But honestly to be stuck, it's not worth it. He could be making double and go to school paid for by my husband's company in a matter of months. AND in reality you will get the money, you WOULD of gotten in retirement or for buying or investing in property (now). If it's ALL this money, then quit and take the money and fix (their roof is leaking and they are crying). Don't get stuck into things. It one of the worst places people can be. I've been telling them for over a year now. And it's just this cycle.
Ricardo is not really happy about moving. He hates moving and he also doesn't really get why I want to go move to a gated apartment. I don't sense this urgency in him make sure our baby is safe. Really he doesn't feel where we live isn't safe. Although it's so relative what is safe or not.... it's a crappy area. It's not just about the safety, it's about the surroundings too. PLUS, We have LOTS of different types of problems. Like the power being shut off for 24 hours, drugs, fighting, people dumping garbage next to our house, dogs fighting in the street (we're talking like 20 dogs for hours at 4 am), internet and phone problems, people don't have much respect in the area, bus stop that is insanely noisy, and the list goes on.
So it's something to deal with..... when your husband is not in a good mood. Being a crab 24/7. He is probably not happy about working during carnival. Which really he does every year, but I'm sure is wearing to see all your friends having fun year in and year out on this day your working.
Which is why I have backed down about moving a couple times. But I don't care anymore. You can't go on complaining forever! I can't live like this, so something has to change.
Our neighborhood has the reputation of being one of the worst in Paulinia. And Ricardo grew up in one of the other worst. So sometimes it's just a cultural blank. Our feelings just don't connect on some levels. Which is what happens with international couple sometimes.
Although, I am sad our dogs can't come. Rio has already been moved to her new home. Puppy we're still looking, since he has part pit and he can be aggressive people don't seem so willing to take him.
I will miss a lot of things at this house, the garden and the space. But in reality we need to move on too. The house is really expensive for the conditions here.
And pretty much the count down to our baby is starting. About 30 more days!
Yes, just one more night at our current place. I am so excited, although my back hits so much. We have had so many problems in our current place. Now, it seems to be all panning out. Our Condo has cable internet with 10x's the speed for half the price (like the thing I am really excited for). I'm so glad to be moving and actually things seem cheaper once the ball got rolling. Like our neighbor is so crappy AND super expensive!
One thing I am noticing is that many poor people pay high prices for just about anything. Food, services, health, credit.... it just goes on. So I really see how people get trapped here. But I also see how many people won't change. My aunt's bf is working at this shitistic company and needs a new job badly. My aunt won't let him quit, he has to get fired. When your fired in Brazil you get so much money. But honestly to be stuck, it's not worth it. He could be making double and go to school paid for by my husband's company in a matter of months. AND in reality you will get the money, you WOULD of gotten in retirement or for buying or investing in property (now). If it's ALL this money, then quit and take the money and fix (their roof is leaking and they are crying). Don't get stuck into things. It one of the worst places people can be. I've been telling them for over a year now. And it's just this cycle.
Ricardo is not really happy about moving. He hates moving and he also doesn't really get why I want to go move to a gated apartment. I don't sense this urgency in him make sure our baby is safe. Really he doesn't feel where we live isn't safe. Although it's so relative what is safe or not.... it's a crappy area. It's not just about the safety, it's about the surroundings too. PLUS, We have LOTS of different types of problems. Like the power being shut off for 24 hours, drugs, fighting, people dumping garbage next to our house, dogs fighting in the street (we're talking like 20 dogs for hours at 4 am), internet and phone problems, people don't have much respect in the area, bus stop that is insanely noisy, and the list goes on.
So it's something to deal with..... when your husband is not in a good mood. Being a crab 24/7. He is probably not happy about working during carnival. Which really he does every year, but I'm sure is wearing to see all your friends having fun year in and year out on this day your working.
Which is why I have backed down about moving a couple times. But I don't care anymore. You can't go on complaining forever! I can't live like this, so something has to change.
Our neighborhood has the reputation of being one of the worst in Paulinia. And Ricardo grew up in one of the other worst. So sometimes it's just a cultural blank. Our feelings just don't connect on some levels. Which is what happens with international couple sometimes.
Although, I am sad our dogs can't come. Rio has already been moved to her new home. Puppy we're still looking, since he has part pit and he can be aggressive people don't seem so willing to take him.
I will miss a lot of things at this house, the garden and the space. But in reality we need to move on too. The house is really expensive for the conditions here.
And pretty much the count down to our baby is starting. About 30 more days!
30 more days! So you're due before me. I have about 10 more weeks (tops). Congratulations on moving and on the soon-to-be-here baby!
ReplyDeleteyea on the move!! Ricardo is at work all day and does not spend the time that you do at the house. That makes a difference in perceptions of how bad it is.
ReplyDeleteCongrats! You will be so much happier :) Once the baby gets there you will need somewhere quiet to get some sleep yourself! I am sure you would be super pissed if you spent hours trying to get the baby to sleep only to be woken up by fighting dogs in the street!!! Glad that you have the guts to do what your family needs!! Good luck with the move!
ReplyDeleteI actually talked to a "manager" about everything, and the guys are gone for now. It's so peaceful again. But, this happened before when one of the guys almost "ran over" my neighbor's daughters drunk. The father talk to the manager, the guys left for about 40 days but came back. Our house is going to be marked forever, or so it seems. I'm just glad the last couple of days are quiet.
ReplyDeleteMer, I am about 34 and half weeks. My due date is April 1st, but the baby will come before. I have the flu right now, and I think I am setting into preclampsia. I'm beyond swollen and feeling that my blood pressure has went the other way.
ReplyDeleteCorinne, I know definitely that's one thing. And that when Ricardo comes home the guys often leave before he comes for about an hour. And for some reason they sell in front of me like it's nothing, but they won't sell in front of him. And they won't get drugs in front of him either. They hide their drugs one side of my yard and sell on the other. Their like ants all over my property back and forth. Lastly, if I say anything to them most of the guys are super rude and try upset me. Ricardo they are so respectful and listen to him, and it's like another world. I was going to write a blog about the gender issues of the whole problem. Because I'm a woman, their giving me a hard time. And maybe also why they will never truly leave, they won't follow female instructions. Interestingly most of them don't have moms either.
SN, I'm so happy. I can't wait for it to be all sort and enjoy the baby!
Nina, I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that you rest when you can and I'm even more relieved for you that you're moving. I think SN is right about peace and quiet.
DeleteI think my baby will stay where he is until the end. I'm feeling pretty good (generally) so I don't see why he would want to leave before he's due (my doctor says no later than April 25th).
My doctor said between the 15 march to the 1st of April being the last day he will wait. I am better now and things are very quiet and peaceful. Just without internet for a while.
DeleteOh, so soon. I'm so excited for you.
DeleteSo glad things are going to change. There is no way you should be OK with having drugs sold outside your baby's room. You are doing the right thing.
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